Have you ever felt guilty for caring so much about your profession and devoting so much time to it? Or maybe you felt guilty as you neglect aspects of your career to cater to your personal life. Trying to balance your responsibilities can be a complicated task to navigate. But don’t stress. Follow this guide to learn how to overcome guilt when trying to balance responsibilities.
Overwhelmed with responsibilities
Feelings of guilt may appear when you come home from work and see some of the life responsibilities you have neglected. This can be in the form of chores, quality time with family, and missed vacations.
Or, on the contrary, you might remember how you had to quickly leave an important meeting because of a call from school, or miss a work trip where your boss decided to rent a prestige car. A rental car is a tremendous pleasure to drive: speed and comfort. While you sit at home with your child doing homework, your colleagues send you pictures taken from a hired luxury car. Yes, it is a little upsetting.
Perhaps you can still remember the disapproving expression your boss gave you when you brought some of your work home but didn’t finish it in time because you were preoccupied with family matters.
Trying to do everything at once is one of the solutions that women frequently discover in a situation like this. However, trying to keep one eye on the computer and the other on the children gets annoying fast. You frequently lack effectiveness in both positions. The report has numerous mistakes, the cleaning is incomplete, and the tension is high. As a result, we get an overworked employee and an overwhelmed parent.
But of course, you love your job and your family. Often it can feel that the joy of self-realization poisons your home environment, and the joy of marriage and motherhood turns out to be an obstacle in your career. But this is entirely incorrect. Both are crucial components of your life and you can enjoy both without feeling guilty. Here’s a guide on how to balance responsibilities to avoid guilt and live a fulfilling life.
What can you do to let go of eternal guilt and overwhelm?
1. Set your own priorities
One of the first steps towards a balanced life is setting your own priorities. And at this point, we are not discussing measures with a “either family or job” ultimatum.
The key is to allocate your time clearly. It’s important to establish:
- How much you are working
- When you are working
- What time is allocated towards your family and your personal life
2. Create quality time
Secondly, it’s important to understand that any claims that “you spend too little time with me” are not always what they seem. Usually, they aren’t concerned about the quantity, but the quality of this pastime.
There is a big difference between “being close” and “being together”. Therefore, learn to be in one role at each moment and only in it. And the shortage of your presence will be filled much more quickly if you spend time with your husband and kids in this manner.
Rather than spending your weekends and vacations worrying about work and checking your emails, try and be present with those around you. Creating memories during the time spent together will allow you to feel fulfilled in your personal life without neglecting your work responsibilities.
3. Ignore criticism
Next, don’t worry if someone criticizes you as a parent or as a worker. As you know, people are quick to judge, and also fast to pick up on a behavior change.
And if you had previously given your colleagues (students, clients, etc.) too much of your time and attention because you were unable to turn away anyone who requested your help, advice, or counsel, they soon started to see it as the norm. They got used to you overstretching yourself, and may not initially realize the importance of your new boundaries. But it’s important they understand the healthy work-life balance you are trying to achieve.
Naturally, it’s also feasible that they may now have complaints and claims against you. Clearly explain to them that on weekends, evenings, or vacations you belong to your family, and consider this completely fair. You’re allowed to set clear boundaries to balance responsibilities, so don’t feel guilty doing so. Creating these boundaries with others will get easier over time.
4. Give yourself credit
Finally, refrain from concentrating strictly on your flaws and weaknesses. Pay attention to the things you can fit in, and don’t forget to give yourself credit for them.
Focusing on negatives will only leave you more preoccupied when trying to be in the moment with family, or unfocused while working. Acknowledge future improvements you could make but don’t stay preoccupied with the past.
Take pride in your abilities, original ideas, successes, and rewards. But when you come home, enjoy your family.
No one knows how to make your signature cake better than you, no one can console a crying baby so quickly, and no one is able to find the best words of support and gratitude for your husband. The very fact you are trying to balance responsibilities in your life better shows you care a lot about both your work and your family.
Balance your responsibilities now
Many of us have a lot on our plates. We want to be the best workers, parents, and friends we can be, and feel guilty when we can’t tackle it all. While it’s difficult to do everything at once, it is possible to balance your responsibilities. If you’re looking to learn more about balancing your responsibilities there are various online resources and successful blogs devoted to being working parents. Do not poison your life and the lives of your loved ones with guilt – look at the joy of self-realization in all areas of your life. Follow this guide to balance responsibilities and free yourself from guilt.
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Alaine Meier is a blogger at LadyBossBlogger. She graduated from the College of the Holy Cross with a BA in Economics and a minor in Environmental Studies.
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