Here’s what I know about you as an entrepreneur. You pour your heart and soul into your business. You lovingly care for it and nurture it. When you are the brand, you will settle for nothing less than the best. I get it. I feel the same way about my company. But that single minded focus can have a down side as well. Who pours all of that love and time and energy back into you? Who lovingly cares for and nurtures you? Who makes sure that you are giving the best of yourself to yourself? If you’re like most, people, the answer is nobody. So here are 5 reasons why now is the time to consider therapy.
Help with boundaries
As a business owner, it is imperative that you know when and how to say no to people, places and things that are not in your best interest or highest good. Otherwise, you end up feeling drained, depleted, taken advantage of and victimized because you are giving away your time and energy in ways that don’t serve you.
When you feel constantly exhausted from over giving and over compensating, there is no space for creativity and vitality in your work. Your business can start to feel overwhelming and out of control. A good therapist can help you identify blocks to boundary setting and clear them so you are more focused and productive.
Help with perfectionism/procrastination
You have a ton of great ideas right? Products you want to create, blogs you want to write, courses you want to launch. But somehow it never happens. It gets pushed off day after day. You tell yourself that you will get to it tomorrow, but somehow you never do. This procrastination can actually be a symptom of the deeper issue of perfectionism. I have had countless clients tell me they don’t want to put something of theirs into the world because it’s not perfect. So they never move forward.
Here’s the thing: the world needs your unique gifts and talents in a big way. When you let the fear of making a mistake or doing it “wrong”, stop you, you are robbing other people of your skills. There is literally someone out there right now who needs exactly what you have to offer. Therapy helps dig to the root of this issue so you can be unapologetic in your offerings.
Help with delegating
It’s so easy to slip into the mindset that if it’s going to be done right, you have to do it yourself. While having ownership of and pride in your work, is wonderful, you may be taking that to the extreme. You have a certain zone of genius where you thrive and flow. If you are not handing off those tasks that suck the life out of you to someone else, you are going to crash and burn and it’s not going to be pretty. Talking with a therapist can help you explore why it’s so hard for you to let go of control and trust that you can be supported to do the work you love to do.
Help with authenticity
Besides doing what you love, you also started a business to make money. There can be fear and panic around this if it’s not happening, and the temptation is to start throwing anything out there to see what sticks. You can get so focused on what you think other people want that you lose sight of who you are and what you do. That feels disingenuous and eats away at your integrity. Not to mention that it’s actually repelling to potential clients.
Entering therapy will allow you a safe space to reconnect with your true, authentic self, and drop the mask of who you believe you have to be for everyone else to like you, buy from you, respect you, etc. Once you stand in that place of genuine clarity in your business, it’s quite magnetic to your ideal customer.
Help with prioritizing yourself
There is a powerful energy that happens when someone signs on to work with me, they are sending a clear message to themselves that they matter. They deserve some of their own time, attention and nourishment. And taking the action to say YES to themselves creates a huge shift in their sense of worth and value that is completely separate from what they do. It’s about who they want to be. And your being-ness is every bit as important to your business as your doing-ness. So if you are ready to say YES to yourself, I would be honored to walk with you on your journey!
Candace Folden, MS, LPC is the founder of Solstice Counseling and Consulting, PLLC. She believes that the greatest lie we have ever been told is that we are broken, flawed and need to be fixed. She sees the devastating effects every day of people buying into this belief. It fractures their relationship with themselves. It drains them of their clarity, creativity and vitality. Contact her at 336-207-8921 or email at firstname.lastname@example.org for your free strategy session.
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