No matter where we are or what we’re doing, we have our own internal voice that accompanies our thoughts and feelings on a constant basis. Sometimes we can be our own greatest obstacle if we allow that internal dialog to go astray and cycle through undesirable self-mantras. These are a few quick tips and methods to quickly give yourself an enhanced sense of self confidence by using that insistent internal monologue to your advantage. Even applying one or two of these strategies can really influence your mood in a positive way. As you read through them you’ll see they are very easy to implement and can start being employed immediately.
Turn that Frown Upside Down
Science has proved that when you smile chemicals get released in your brain that naturally boost your mood. Also, people are reciprocally prone to respond to your smile with a smile. So, next time when you’re feeling a lack of self-confidence, instead of keeping your head down when you’re walking to your daily destination try this out. I wouldn’t be surprised if suddenly you’re looking around at smiling faces.
State the Positive Inverse
Every time a negative thought bubbles to the surface, consciously tell yourself the opposite. Actively challenging yourself to do this will improve your ability to quickly and easily overcome negative self-talk. As an added bonus, if you practice this enough, specific negative thoughts can get written over with positive affirmations entirely!
Be Kind to Yourself
This one sounds a little silly until you try it! Set up an automatic text message to yourself on a reoccurring basis, ideally daily. Make sure you choose a message that will have maximum impact on your self-confidence. Try something like “I am strong, resilient and capable of accomplishing any goal I set and overcoming any challenge I face.” You’ll get busy with your day, forget you set this up and when you read your self-loving text, it will instantly improve your mood.
Get Outside Your Head-space
Talking to a friend, loved one, trusted coach or advisor is the best approach. Even if you don’t have a coach on speed dial, you have options. Recording yourself as you work through your thoughts in your journal or even talking to your best four-legged friend about what’s on your mind can be a great approach to stop that pesky negative chatter your mind unconsciously throws at you.
Give Yourself Support
One of the best ways to boost your self-confidence quickly and permanently is to work with a coach to create healthy, positive self-talk and a personalized plan to strength your sense of security and personal trust. Practicing these strategies on a consistent basis will dramatically improve your own inner monologue. Even enacting one or two will greatly help. If you’re having trouble adapting to the changes that implementing all of them at once requires, then start by adding one to your routine on a consistent basis. When you feel like you’ve mastered the one, try adding another.
Habit stacking is also helpful in applying new additions to your routine. If you have something you do constantly, like brushing your teeth twice a day, try to add a post-it note on your bathroom mirror that has your positive, self-confidence boosting message on it and make sure to read it while you’re brushing. The habit you are already in the routine of doing (brushing your teeth) will make it exceedingly easier to ingratiate the new habit (focusing on your positive self-confidence affirmation) into your life. In addition to habit stacking, try to reach out to family and friends to help you reinforce your new arsenal of weapons against bad vibes.
Having an accountability partner has been proved to make new habits stick. And if you can afford the time and resources to hire a professional – do it! Think of it as a spa day for your inner self. I hope this list of strategies to quickly boost your self-confidence helps you on your wellness journey!
Danielle Blansett is a Strength Based Consultant and Head Dragon Slayer at DB Freedom. Danielle partners with leaders who recognize they are struggling to connect with the central people on their path to success. She assists these leaders in developing awareness of the obstacles and develop strategies to achieve their goals.